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Resolving the Holiday Dilemma

Resolving The Holiday Dilemma

 

Holidays are supposed to be times of celebration, joy, fun and other such positive vibes. Yet, in my experience, that has seemed to be difficult to achieve!

 

I had thought it would get better as the years went by, but if anything it seems more complicated. There is always some family bother. And if my family of origin isn't providing the season's stress factor, then, my kids, my husband, or the “Family of God”, steps up to the plate! Lol Oy gevault!

 

"Guarding one's heart" (Prov. 4:23) is NEVER more necessary or advised than during the holiday season. As one pastor we know has said, “Any time there's a wedding, funeral or a holiday, someone is going to show-out!” That was an astute observation! I have never known it to fail! Someone will give us an opportunity to be offended! And if we take it, then it's all downhill from there. Our holiday is ruined. All because we took the bait. 

 

This is a time when we must put our feelings in the Secret Place of the most high, and NOT on our sleeves! This is a time when we must reach IN for HIS JOY, HIS PEACE, and LOVE – and find – and determinedly acknowledge - HIS REASONS FOR THE SEASON!

 

This is a time when we must shut off, or at least limit profoundly, the mad-mad-media, tune out or shut down the heathen substitutes for what this holiday is SUPPOSED to be about, and determine to walk in love, grace and forgiveness - and resist the many opportunities to become offended with someone, who may or may not have intended to offend!

 

Holidays have always been tough for me personally, because they trigger decades of memories in which the holidays were “A series of unfortunate events”! But this year more than ever, because most of the pleasant “distractions”, a.k.a., my children, have flown the coop, and are now strung out all over the place at this point.

 

And, as if empty nest weren't holiday dimming enough on it's own, the “nest” itself is currently undergoing all the least pleasant parts of the renovation process – which must come before the positive replacing of things! But it is going SO MUCH SLOWER THAN I HAD HOPED!!!!

 

So everything just feels strange. And sort of lonely. As in all of life though, there are positive things too, if one cares to take the time to notice and acknowledge them. Gene and I are slowly waking up to the fact that we are FREE. That we don't have to consider anyone but ourselves at this point. We can do whatever we can afford to do, and it's nobody's business. We haven't known that feeling since 1987! lol

 

Of course there are seasons of transition in our lives. They are utterly necessary lest we just stagnate. But, as one who gave birth naturally to seven kids, without pain meds, I am a firm witness to the fact that transition is the most difficult part of any birth! OY! Once the baby is out all is Joy again! But Ugh! Those last bits leading up to that relief? No one loves that stuff! 

 

And so it is with any real life changes. We “lose” people we love, whether to death or distance. We may "know where they are", but contact is either impossible or more limited than we'd like. We deal with people who stress us out, because they are part of our lives, and they are either being processed by God too, or worse, are resisting it!

 

We eventually, if we're able to pay attention, learn when and how to set boundaries, and what those must look like, and how to keep them where they go! We learn to speak Truth. Then we learn to speak it from a motivation of LOVE - if we are tuned in to God, Yeshua, and The Spirit. And then we grow from one season to the next.

 

Growing, however, whether it is from infancy to toddler, or from Young Adult to Historically seasoned, requires positive change, which doesn't always feel positive. Transition, even in the best of situations, is always a tough adjustment.

 

We must remember that God is more interested in growing His Character in us than granting our wishes. He will never enable our fallen flesh. Part of the process of transformation from Flesh-driven fools, to Spirit-Beings that reflect God's image, is a process that has been referred to as 'The Refiner's Fire”. That aptly describes the process in which we are melted down and reformed!

 

It is a God-ordered process in which all that is unlike Him is removed, as we, like gold, are melted down, and the dross, the stuff that inhibits, or diminishes, our true value, is removed. That does't sound like a Caribbean cruise does it?!

 

When will we get it that serving God is about HIS GLORY, which results in our good. But, we should also remember that our idea of “good” and His are totally different! He sees the end from the beginning, and is preparing us for something we can't even imagine. So we need to press into Him. Develop a real TRUST for HIM, and His processes. And just get over ourselves. Then, and only then, is there any chance of having a truly happy holiday!

 

Oh … and I say “Happy Holiday”, most of the time, rather than “Merry Christmas”, because I am including Hanukkah along with Christmas, and some other holidays (of which I am less informed, but that other people cherish)!

 

So please,  don't growl your offended, hypocritical, ill informed, and un-sincere, "Merry Christmas" back at me!

 

If you can't exchange a pleasant greeting that isn't the greeting you prefer,  or simply say the one that you  DO prefer with a sincere, well-meaning attitude, then do yourself and the rest of the world a favor and keep your Grinch-like self, along with your UN-Merry Christmas greetings, at home! Good Grief Charlie Brown!

 

And I mean that in a very caring way!

 

Shalom Haverim – Happy Holidays! <3

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  • I am a devoted follower of Yeshua, the Messiah. I have been married to Gene Duncan II for 37 years, and counting. I have 7 children, 3 boys & 4 girls - all grown up. They have been home educated, K-12. I also write, hence the blog (including, but not limited to: children's books, poems, and personal growth art. ) Please stay tuned as I share my personal journey through poems and writing.

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