“Speaking the Truth in Love” does not mean sugar-coating a bunch of idealistic hogwash! Nor does it mean velvet-cloaking malicious, self-defending, vitriolic spewing of scripture-based or themed bashing in the name of instruction!
Speaking the Truth in Love is meant to be done by balanced, mature believers, who see a brother or sister “overtaken” in a stronghold – and should be approached from the motivation of LOVE that longs to see that person freed.
We are, of course, to go directly to those who have caused us to struggle with offense! We are told to tell them (not every mutual acquaintance we each possess!) what it was that they did – real or perceived – that caused us to have feelings of offense (a.k.a. - “Hurt”, “Rejection”, or “Abuse” - terms we prefer to use because we feel more justified in nursing our offense that way!).
We are to communicate our hurt to them in a trusting, non-threatening, non-offensive, forgiving, loving way – which is speaking the TRUTH (we are hurt) in LOVE (a way that does not cause them hurt, but which gives them an opportunity to at least clear up any misunderstanding, or to own up to any unscrupulous motives they have and repent, thus cleansing their conscience, relieving them of guilt and us of pain!). That is how it is supposed to work. But, like most things, religious flesh offers only a substandard, scripturally inclusive, but not exclusive, take on any issue!
The people of Almighty God have got to return to HIS Word, and HIS Way of doing and being right! We have got to become more interested in how things actually are, instead of being content as long as everything “looks alright”! We have become SUCH hypocritical, loudly prating, Pharisaical peacocks! We are not worth the dirt we are made of, when it comes to being instruments of His power and anointing in this hurting, dying, confused world! Where is our light?! Our voice? Our resistance to the enemy – at which he is supposed to flee?!!!
We need to stop posting prideful religious crap about how sinful homosexuality in the sin-ridden world is - and become more concerned about the sin in the Church which has brought the obvious judgment of our God against this nation - which once represented Him – but is NOW a peon of Islam – thanks to our ineptitude! Speaking the Truth in LOVE is supposed to motivate people to Teshuvah - not bury them in shame! So wake up people! Don't preach unless you practice! Let's Repent - of our complacency - of justifying our own sin, while loudly condemning others - of “doing” good just to look good – instead of allowing the Holy Spirit of God to Transform you into BEING GOOD from the inside out!
It is time we learned the art of speaking the truth in love! It is time we learned the disciplines of living the Truth in His Love! It is time we became the truth in LOVE! It is time we let our light shine, and our love flow to this ever darkening planet!