We were never designed to be “Independent”, which has been defined as: freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others. Nor were we designed to be Codependent, which is, of or relating to a relationship in which one person is physically or psychologically addicted, as to people-pleasing, alcohol or gambling, meds. Etc. - and other people in their lives are psychologically dependent on the first in an unhealthy way. Rather, we are called to be interdependent; mutually dependent; depending on God and each other – within healthy boundaries and parameters!
I have noticed, however, that there is always a ditch on both side of the paths of righteousness! And the enemy – which can be defined as “the world, the flesh and the devil” - can always find a substandard substitute for each area of God's original design!
Just think about it. If we are left to our lower natures we usually end up “ in lust” instead of “in love”! And then when the fire fades so does the commitment! I think the current divorce rate statistics proves that assertion! We substitute mindless compliance for willful submission – we demand it, and presumptiously perform at that substandard level, not understanding the difference. We operate in control issues, thinking that we are “walking in Authority” - when actually we are only manipulating people's weaknesses, exploiting them to our own advantage!
And in that same way we avoid interdependence like the plague! Because it requires accountability! It requires real respect, humility, giving and receiving, it demands the discomfort of iron sharpening iron – of being willing to lose our rough edges. It demands more than ritual, tradition and legalistic adherence to a mere form of Godliness! So we stick to our subpar religious substitutions, and pretend to be all that our doctrines indicate that we should be – though we inwardly suffer shame that we can never seem to measure up! We find ourselves in a cycle of hiding - feeling compelled to pretend. Compelled to defend our failures, or dress them up in hyper-spiritual veneers. Shallow, deadly, and suffocating - deceiving ourselves that we are free! How sad, when we have a savior, One willing and able to deliver us!
The bottom line is that we would rather protect our flaws and be defined by them, than be delivered from them! Because really believe that they represent the “real us” - forgetting that we were not originally designed with flaws! We were made in the image of a Holy God! And the only way back to “the real us” is to cooperate with His Spirit, in an interdependent way, and to interact with His People as HE leads! As the poet John Donne eloquently wrote,
“No man is an island, entire of itself. Every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main...any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind...therefore never sent to know for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for thee.”
That is not the entire poem, and I am not sure I agree with his entire perspective, however, he made a good point that EVERY LIFE MATTERS – and ALWAYS HAS! No person is so broken, so diseased, so bound that Yeshua can't deliver him or her! All lives are of utmost importance - especially to our Creator God! That is why He sent His Messiah to deliver, and His Spirit to work His transformation in us! Transforming us from fallen, human-nature, back into His glorious, holy image! Perfection. However, getting us “back to the Garden” requires that we live interdependently – leaning on God and accessing each others gifts and strengths!
Independence is a cancerous mental paradigm which divides us, until we are deteriorated down to a single cell organism – which can not hope to stand! Religion is an accomplice of this evil scheme. Religion promises the "options, which the lower nature wants and demands - and yet smothers to death the anointing which offers any real choice or freedom!
We humans stupidly divide ourselves! First into cultural or ethnic groups – AsianAmerican, AfricanAmerican, CaucasianAmerican, NativeAmerican, LatinoAmerican...etc., etc.! And then within those groups we divide according to religious preferences! We break off into Christian, Middle Eastern, Judaism, Asian or other plethora of other religious expressions! And THEN within each of THOSE religious distinctions we further divide into our clicks of limited understanding! For example, the so-called “Christian Faith” is divided into more “denominational” fragments than can be counted! Including those deceived souls who presume to be free of those lines, calling themselves “non-denominational” while looking down in judgment upon those who are – bound in just as much legalism to idolatry and false doctrine as those they judge! And ALL of them avoiding the REAL LAW of GOD under the pretense of freedom from legalism! If it wasn't so tragic it would be laughable! And the world IS laughing! And Cursing! And dying, and going to hell in a hand basket! While the anointing of the LORD languishes for lack of true disciples, and the hope for unity is dim indeed!
All in the Name of One LORD! All claiming to have the same head! When in reality this so-called "Christian" religion has more heads than Hydra, each one more ugly and idolatrous than the last – multiplying by division like cancer, instead of growing in grace and glory as His Church is supposed to!
Sadly, more “churches” are begun out of contention, and are the result of “church-splits”, than are begun through good work, and honest growth! That is a spiritual immune deficiency disorder! The growth of religion is like the growth of a tumor. No life, and little hope of survival – and yet, producing a great mass of deadly substance. Deceived ones insist that “the numbers are there so it must be good”! When God has said that He is not restrained to save or deliver by many or by few!
Unlike greedy, fame-hungry flesh, He is not about quantity as much as He is quality! Of course He wishes that all men would be saved! But the operative word is saved! Not white-washed, hog-washed or merely ritually baptized! He wants Disciples NOT Converts!!!! He wants a real transformation to take place! One which will deliver us from the pride and slavery of independence and codependence, and free us to the limitless world of interdependence on Him and His other children – so that the unity He is seeking can be accomplished! He wants us unified to Himself – but we must first be unified to each other in Him! That is part of the purification process, humbling ourselves enough to recognize that we need Him and each other! The Iron sharpening Iron process!
We must gather – those of us who have found Him in Spirit and in Truth, and who therefore Hear His Voice and Obey it – and we must seek Him together and pray His wandering ones out of bondage to religion, condependence, independence, narcissism and other deceptive snares of the enemy! We must bring Heaven to Earth and occupy His planet until He comes – As One In Him! Heinei mah tov u'mah n'a'im chevet achim gam y'a'chad! How good and pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! Says David, the writer/composer of Psalm 133!
It is suggested, if not plainly stated, that Messiah can not come until His people embrace His Spirit in unity! At this rate He would never come! BUT GOD...”! God - who IS rich in Mercy - is able to make all grace abound to us all – even in our broken state! But Faith was not made available to us to merely comfort the broken, it came to fix us! But we must submit to the fixing process. We must die to our fallen flesh, so that His resurrected Spirit can live through us – and in doing so – WE find real life as well! I don't pretend to know how! I just know that He doesn't lie! So it must be True!
Today, let us come into unity with HIS SPIRIT, so that His Spirit can work us into unity with each other – that we may occupy until He comes – that He may come! Let us forsake our people pleasing, idolatrous independent, codependent ways – let us forsake our insane, mentally ill, religious paragigms! Let us forsake our subpar, human substitutions for His standards, and let us seek His grace, and His Spirit who writes His standard on our very hearts that we might not sin against Him or each other! Let us seek His place of Peace, Love and Joy which He bought for us with His precious blood! May His sacrifice never be in vain! May we accept it and apply it to our lives – worshiping Him in Spirit and in Truth – not in pretention and tradition! May we offer the sacrifices of an humble and contrite spirit which He will not despise! Instead of the idolatrous, polluted, human, flesh-contrived, religious rot which He does despise!
Today – let us press our way into HIM – into His secret place – where we are all seated at His right hand in the Anointed Yeshua! And Let us be One in Him!